Fathers Day is just around the corner and I don’t know about you but I have a few special men in my life that I want to celebrate.
This post was actually supposed to be a Father’s Day gift guide but as I started typing it took on a whole new course. The intention of adding affiliate links grew wings and took flight along with the original purpose of this post, it just didn’t seem right. So, I won’t be checking Yoast to see where my SEO needs improving, screw keywords and screw readability, this one is truly from the heart. Okay, maybe just a little check on the readability, I do want this post to actually make sense!
So what is Fathers Day?
Father’s Day is celebrated every year on the 3rd Sunday of the month of June. This year its 21st June 2020. We are not the only country to celebrate Fathers Day, it’s also celebrated across Europe and in the US. For once, the Americans came up with it first and the UK followed suit. It was first created following a mining accident in West Virginia that killed 362 men. A local church held a special sermon to honour the fathers and their families.
It wasn’t until the following year when a lady called Sonora Smart Dodd, displeased that Mother’s were celebrated on Mother’s Day but no corresponding day for fathers, decided to petition her local government to change this in honour of her own father. Thus Father’s Day becoming an annual celebration.
Washington State was the first to celebrate the official Fathers Day in June 1910 before it spread through other states and countries and soon became an global annual event.
The men in my life…
The first man I want to celebrate is obviously the father of my child. The man who reminds me on a regular basis not to take life too seriously, to let go of the things that stress me out and the things I can’t control. He taught me so much over the 13 years we’ve been together. He’s helped me to be a better person, encouraged me to open my heart to the things I was so closed off to. He helped me to let go of a selfish chip on my shoulder that had me thinking the world owed me something and he’s the one who reminds me on a regular basis to remain humble and let go of judgement. He’s the reason I’ve found and formed strong bonds and friendships with the most unlikely characters, the people I’m forever grateful to have and to have had in my life. He opened my eyes to many prejudges I didn’t even realise I had. He took on my niece, treating her as his own. He gave me my amazingly crazy toddler and is quite literally the best father any little girl could possibly ask for. Lets be honest, to be able to put up with my shit, he’s basically a real life hero.
The second is my stepdad. This is the man who has helped restore my faith and trust in men. Since meeting my mum 15 years ago and taking on her two daughters, one slightly wayward with a young child of her own and the other, a stroppy teenager (me!) who was determined to hate him just because he was a man and with my mum. Little did I know then, we would move from our northern council estate down south into the small village where he lived and start our lives as southerners. This being the same village I met my partner and the father of my child. My Stepdad allowed me to let go of the deep, overbearing sense of protectiveness I had for my mum – the result of living with my abusive, drunken dad for 12 years and rough council estates. He released me from the heavy burden I felt by taking over the reins. Don’t get me wrong, I will always be protective of my mum and my whole family for that matter, but now it’s in a healthy way. He’s the father I never had and never knew I wanted until I realised what I had missed out on.
So, if this isn’t reason enough to celebrate these two amazing men, I don’t know what is. I rack my brains every year trying to think of the right gift to show these great guys just how much they mean to me. But sometimes only words are needed.
Celebrate the men you love
I think we can all agree there is an immense amount of negativity in the world, most of which is thrust in our faces every day through the media. In most circumstances, there is usually a man at the root of the story. Men are quite often the villains, not just in the media but also in books and movies too. Whether it’s cheating men, abusive men or murdering men, it can overwhelm and make us forget that actually there are so many good men in the world. I want to change the negative narrative and replace it with love and positivity. Like with anything in life, there are bad eggs but let’s not forget about the good eggs and there are so many good eggs too. Let’s not let the dark clouds of the worlds problems and media-fed negativity block out the light of those special people in our lives.
If you have a few good eggs in your life let them know how much you appreciate them this Fathers Day. And remember, sometimes all you need is words.